As some words of encouragement, we’ve all been there before.
Have you ever looked at a rose before? You know, it’s red, beautiful, represents love. But, sometimes, when you’re too quick to grab it, you get pricked by the thorns it has on it’s stem. Just like life, we’ve all been pricked by those thorns before. We don’t know that they’re there until you’re already hurt by them. The key is to learn not to be so quick to grab the rose the next time.
Coming into college, I never realized how raw emotions could feel. You’re no longer shielded from the high-school-fantasy type of bull that you’ve experienced so long ago. You’re thrown into a world of “deal-with-it” or “that’s life” mentalities, and sometimes, it’s hard to adjust to such a cutthroat lifestyle. As many people have reminded me in the time I’ve been here, we’re no longer children, and it’s time to be an adult. Let me tell you, that’s not nearly as easy as it sounds.
There are so many ways of conquering this little bump in the road, but all in all, my first tactic is quite simple…
1. Start to realize the better out of situation.
Trust me, you’ll thank me for it. If you sit back and absorb the shitty-ness of the situation, you won’t get anything constructive out of your reflection. Take the time and make a list of things that you’ve learned from the experience, and take those to heart. Nothing is better than coming off as the better person. This leads into something similar…
2. Realize you’re getting older, and you’re gaining more from these experiences.
When I talk to my big, Hayley, I learn so much more than I ever thought possible. Maybe it’s because she doesn’t approve of half the things I do in life, but the other half is that she too has been through it all, and she’s not afraid to use her 22-year-old brain to tell me how that too has happened to her. Remember, we all have a choice. We can either listen to someone else’s similar experiences and construct a reason not to repeat the same poor mistakes, or we can continue making the wrong decisions in life. If you choose the first choice, we can move onto #3…
3. Understand that you’re better without that kind of lifestyle, and change it up.
Once you’ve jumped the hurdle of realizing that the lifestyle you had was extremely unhealthy, give yourself reasons to change. Maybe you can start talking to a new group of friends. Take some time to get to know yourself if you keep questioning your own choices. Take a step back and assess what you need to do to find your personal growth, not how you can distract yourself from reality.
4. Cry about it, but not for too long.
Make sure to get your emotions across. If you don’t, you’re risking a possible mental breakdown, or putting those emotions onto someone else, and you definitely don’t want to do that. Make sure to sit there, and hash out whatever has just gone on in your life to someone you can trust. You never know what will come out of it, or what words of encouragement you can get from it. But, lastly…
5. Follow the passion that was hidden for a while and pursue it.
A lot of people don’t seize their hidden passion until something bad happens to them, and that is something that genuinely irks me. As a blogger, I clearly write down my emotions, but when I really hit a low point in my life this year, I took up yoga again. In high school, when I dealt with bullying and un-needed stress in my life, I took up music, which really calmed me down. Take the opportunity to realize what you really love, and make sure you follow your passions before it’s too late.
As always, xoxo.